In class the past week, we read a short-story called ‘My Son The Fanatic’, along with the short-story ‘Free For All’, both being some kind of similar stories yet with different turnouts. In this text, I am going to discuss what these two stories tell about being an immigrant, and how it is raising a family in a different culture.
First of all, both of these stories have similar outlines and surroundings when it comes to family. The content of these two stories is about the relationship between a father and a son, however, religion comes into the picture and the relations change.
My Son The Fanatic shows us how it is to grow up in a ‘stereotypical’ cultured household, when you live in America – where the father works long hours and the wife is at home being avoided by the husband, being the ‘underdog’ and of course the child, who works hard with college and yet being criticized for doing something wrong. The son, named Ali, suddenly change behavior throughout a period of time and goes from being a good student to throwing out valuable things, dropping his education and disappearing from home. His father, Parvez, shortly finds out that Ali has found an interest in the religion Islam and begins to go to the Mosque, and pray. He begins to feel worried about his son and after a big discussion between the two he ends up beating up his son – and Ali’s only response was ‘So who’s the fanatic now?’
On the other hand, we have the short-story Free For All which is quite similar to the first story, being an immigrant family in America and not surely being shore about The US policy when it comes to hitting a family member as a punishment. This story involves a teenage boy which loves his guitar more than anything, using his spare time annoying his father with the guitar-playing in his room. This is the huge conflict in the story, where the father is being coercive that the son quits his passion and should rather focus on school – resulting in the son getting hysterical as a consequence of the father denying him. He ended up slapping his son, and ended up in a 24-hour arrest for child abuse. When he was let out, he contacted his brother in Pakistan and planning a trip there – where he again hit his son with the guitar so it smashed, and the difference was – there were no cops that stopped him, is that in Pakistan punishments like hitting your child is seen as ‘parenting’.
When comparing these two stories, we can say that the parents both experience culture shock when it comes to what was allowed in their previous home-country, in contrast, what is allowed in the US. Being that they were immigrants and not surely know what all the rules were, it should be quite obvious that wherever you are, you should respect and follow the common decency regardless of the religion/country.
To raise a family in another environment and a different culture can be difficult, especially being an immigrant where everything is different from home. Moving to a new country where there is a different behavior, a way of thinking and new rules could be seen as a culture shock for many families who are coming from for instance Pakistan.
A multicultural society is positive in many ways, yet there are also downsides. Being that there are thousands of immigrants who immigrate from different countries around the world, we end up in a society which has a mix of very drastic differences when it comes to what they are used to, skin color and behavior. These two stories tell us about multiculturalism is a way that many could think is extreme, but sadly is the reality to many families. For example that in Pakistan there is a different way of ‘parenting’ than in the US, and when you move from a country that is used to that kind of rules to a new place where everything is different, you end up having to develop understanding and starting to behave properly.
Having said all this, living in a multicultural society have its challenges, but it all comes down to ourselves and working towards learning how to cooperate with different religions and helping each other out.
Sources I have used:
– Culture Shock picture from google, downloaded 22.11.17
-Free For All handout-story. Buner, Tony, m.fl. “Global Visions”. Aschehoug, Oslo. 2017
-My Son The Fanatic handout-story